Wednesday, July 17, 2013 – fly and bus to Okavango Delta, Botswana


driving to the airport just before sunrise

Arthur going to the little plane that Arthur and I and Winston and Polly Anna took to the Bokuso airstrip

the runway at the Kasane airport

our pilot, Christina _ from Spain, beside the 4-passenger plane that Arthur and I and Winston and Polly Anna took to the Bokuso airstrip


Arthur inside our plane

saying goodbye to the Chobe River flood plains

salt lick


we are really stuck deep in the sand

Janet Shi looks like Lawrence of Arabia trying to keep the sand out of her face

Both the Chobe area and the Okavango Delta area show great destruction from elephants. It turns out that Botswana has a greater number of elephants than their vast animal preserves can handle, and they are looking for other countries to take on some of the elephant animal groups.


dried grass in the sun

starling

Abi Nyoni, Arthur Kay, June Kay, Scott Shephard, Monica Shephard, Janet Shi, and Polly Anna Randol in the other Range Rover

fish eagle

elephant

narrow log bridge to get to camp


Okavango Delta swamps
We are welcomed to the Okavango Delta camp


Our camp host, Nature

basketry for sale, made by the staff

giraffe


cape buffalo

Nature welcomes us to the camp

Polly Anna Randol, Monica Shephard, Arthur Luehrmann, Scott Shephard, Arthur Kay, June Kay

Judith Blecha, Marilyn Herel, Marian Moran, Winston Padgett, Monica Shephard, Polly Anna Randol, Arthur Luehrmann and Scott Shephard

termite mound

hippo in the water

close-up of the outside of the termite mound

Arthur and June Kay

These days a marriage is more controlled by the bride and groom. Most of the countries in Africa allow polygamous marriages, with males allowed to marry up to 5 wives. Polyandrous marriages are not allowed. If a man has more than one wife, he must treat them all equally.
Abi and his wife, Loren, have been married for 12 years. They met by chance at a church meeting in her village, and Abi was smitten. He stayed in that village and had a friend drive him around for one week just to see her again. They courted for about 7 months. The parents of the intended groom contact a close family friend to make the initial contact with the parents of the intended bride. The two intended give presents to each other. The prospective groom and his parents formally visit the bride’s parents. At this meeting all the sisters of the prospective bride are dressed just like the prospective bride, and the prospective groom is asked which one he wants. If the bride’s parents agree, they give the couple a few weeks to make sure, and then set a date for the dowry. Abi’s in-laws told Abi that he should pay 6 cows. Since he is not a farmer and has no cows, they settled on a price equivalent for the cows. On the date set for the dowry, the prospective groom carries a plate with some money in it with another plate on top. He comes formally dressed and sits on the ground despite being urged to take a chair, leaving the chairs for the parents and aunties and uncles to show his good manners. Unless and until the in-laws accept the money, the young man cannot open his mouth to say anything. If they accept the money, then the parents bargain regarding the dowry. Once agreement is reached on the dowry terms, the couple is automatically married in the traditional way. Abi’s dowry was 6 cows — 4 now and 2 “on time” later.
Abi and Loren also wanted to have a civil, registered, marriage. They invited friends and opened the invitation to anyone who wanted to come. All the people who come chip in for the party. In addition to his 6-cow dowry, Abi bought a big bull to help feed the 300 guests who came.
Land is jointly “owned” in the community. If you have cows, you ask the headman where you can raise your cows and he will assign you an area. Cows are “walking Swiss banks”. Some Africans have had terrible experiences with western-style banks, and only trust cows as a measure of wealth.

Polly Anna Randol, Scott Shephard, Arthur Kay, June Kay

on the path to our cabin at sunset